April112014
Wow. Brushing the dust off this is refreshing.
Since I’ve last posted, I now have a husband, my sister has been married as well, and (hopefully) I am on my way to a new job soon. 
Also…Easter is descending down upon us! I surely could have done much, much better this Lenten season. 

Wow. Brushing the dust off this is refreshing.

Since I’ve last posted, I now have a husband, my sister has been married as well, and (hopefully) I am on my way to a new job soon. 

Also…Easter is descending down upon us! I surely could have done much, much better this Lenten season. 

November262013

Some things I’ve learnt recently:

1. It is bad for your own heart not to forgive other people.

2. It is hard to regain trust in people once they have betrayed that.

3. It is important for a woman to dress well - in order to conform to the dignity of her soul.

4. Being presentable is a courtesy to other people.

November172013

Deep breath.

Why do I often wish I could fast forward time? God needs to teach me to learn to live in the moment - no matter how bad.

October202013
LJ and I were thrown a surprise engagement party on October 12.
The cake was the piece de resistance of the food table - it was a beautiful two tiered cake with both our national flowers - orchids and jasmines.

LJ and I were thrown a surprise engagement party on October 12.

The cake was the piece de resistance of the food table - it was a beautiful two tiered cake with both our national flowers - orchids and jasmines.

July182013
At Singapore’s Garden’s by the Bay

At Singapore’s Garden’s by the Bay

April52013

I’ve been in Auckland for the last two and half days. That’s St. Patrick’s cathedral there, where there was some very zealous organ practising going on in the background while I sat there to pray.

This is the different thing about living here in Oceania, compared to on my little island country. When two people meet, and one needs to get a job, it’s easy because there isn’t something so big called distance… Or at least, distance that can’t be solved without an hour long MRT train commute to work…

The reality is that I just flew to a country next door (and have driven many more times) to a different city for a job interview. You know how you’ve heard of stories where people have moved to different states, countries etc. just to find new jobs? Yea, I’m at that stage in my life.

As mobile as I wish I were in my life (well, technically speaking I have no mortgage, I rent, my car is secondhand, I have no children and family…), moving is actually a very difficult reality. I must have moved at least 5 times in the  past 6 years I’ve been here and it does get old. And that’s all been within Sydney (well that’s not true in its entirety either. I’ve also spent little pockets of time in other states especially during my internship).

I got so mixed up peering into my purse for change yesterday when I was in Auckland because the coins looked creepily the same, sans the fact that the gold coin sizes were exactly the opposite (In New Zealand the two dollar coins are larger, not the dollar coins). Very tricky. I furiously worked out my bus fare ten minutes in advance so I wouldn’t have to look like a clown searching for change and handing over AUD by the time my bus arrived. (I worked out that you could dupe people to your advantage by using NZD$1 coins here and passing them off as AUD$2 coins…the exchange rate is in your favour. But I digress).

Not only that, but everytime you move, (and this point isn’t actually bad) you go through a spring cleaning of appliances and knick knacks you need to toss away, clothes you haven’t quite worn enough…In other words you never really feel quite secure enough to buy or amass things, because there will always be another ‘move’. I’ll be honest, I’ve now whittled down my CD and book buying to the bare minimal. In fact, the last book I bought was a textbook. Oh, and I probably sold three to buy that one. Get it? Your life is a mini garage sale, until you’ve settled. Furniture? Gumtree is your friend. Swap, sell, IKEA it as cheap as you can, whatever gets you by. 

Let’s not forget visas, exchange rates (in foreseeing how much you will have earnt once you’ve moved back), airfares, relocation costs, selling the car etc.

Anyway, back to Auckland. It was a lovely city, I would love to entertain the idea of plonking myself down on it for two years before I have to move back to Australia. But we’ll see how things go. As growing up tells us, we can never really plan…

April12013
Firstly, before I begin, Happy easter! It has been a great one for me; I am relieved that Lent has ended, and also just so joyous after Easter Sunday.
Now, on to what I was really going to unload about…
LJ and I have recently begun reading this book together, called ‘Marriage: A Path to Sanctity’, written by Javier Abad and Eugenio Fenoy.
I cannot begin to say what a joy this has become for both of us. We have only begun about 3 or 4 days ago, and we only read a few pages at a time, but I cannot describe already how this has changed us. When I say we read it together, we actually plonk ourselves down somewhere and take turns reading aloud. We were very privileged this past long weekend to have been able to do so; finding time to spend with each other is sometimes difficult enough during the week.
I cannot recommend this any more highly than to say: Read it! Both of us, only two chapters in, have felt so changed and closer by our reading experience together already.
Let me start by clarifying - it may be weird for many dating couples today to even approach the topic. Marriage is for the weak, or for the clingy and for people who need reassurance of commitment/a sign of commitment? I beg to differ. Marriage is for the very, very strong and determined. It is not easy. And to people who run away from the commitments and the self sacrifice that it demands - that is the easier option. There is no out in marriage - it is indissoluble, and it is very admirable that two people enter into it willingly and with full knowledge that once done, it cannot be undone.
Where do I start? Marriage is not easy. The book never minces its words and says it is all about pain and sacrifice. Don’t get me wrong - pain can be joyful (you say what?!) - this happens when sacrifice is done out of love. Then it redeems the self sacrifice into something beautiful. 
It also states from the very start that marriage is a religious vocation, not any easier or any lesser than any other religious vocation e.g. religious life etc. In fact, with the demands of communal life, and having children - it doesn’t make it a walk in the park.
To those who have disagreements about marriage, that’s fine. I myself saw my parents divorce. But as I said before, two chapters into the book, and I already see, so clearly, that marriage is so important in society and in the world. I see so clearly that it is very needed, and very called for, especially in today’s world.
I myself cannot believe I am writing these words. Trust me, it makes me feel like a fuddy duddy, but I assure you, I feel strangely confident about these thoughts.
What you make of your future family will shape your children, and you go on to form a very important building block of society. You are not just responsible for yourself and your spouse, but for the connections you make around you. It was a slap to my face that marriage and love are not just about my self fulfillment, but ALL about other people. ALL about them. 
The book goes on to explain a lot of other things that many other married people today may not  necessarily agree with, like contraception, co-habitation before marriage, and openness to children. Let me first say that these are very, very, contentious issues and I started out wondering and sharing the very same prefaces to the big debate arguments surrounding these:
- If we’re already going to get married, we can live together, it’s like ‘trying it out’, isn’t it? 
-It’s my body, I can choose whether to have an abortion or not if we get pregnant (Okay the issue of abortion is actually something I have strong opinions on - yes it’s your body, but when your right intervenes on the unborn’s right to live, your right stops there. You cannot remove the right to live from just the unborn without hurting the whole society’s right to live. A right to live is a right for everybody. And biology has never refuted that life begins at conception. It may not survive outside the womb, and it may look like a ball of cells, but neither would you have survived without your mother’s care and milk or looked like yourself even when you were two weeks old. In other words, a lack of biological maturity does not make it fair to kill a person. Now back to the issue of marriage.) 
- We are married (Christians) but we don’t want to have children yet, so we’ll wait a few years and use birth control in the meantime…
Trust me when I say I used to understand these and when thinking about these (or really, should I say, not thinking maturely and deeply enough about these issues yet) I thought I shared the same sentiment.
With the last question on contraception use in married couples, I think I will come back and divulge more after we have read a lot more…
I think I shall step away from the lectern now and just say I highly recommend it. Now I will probably wait to herald the judgement that I am some traditional, backward thinking person living in today’s society. A bit proudly and with more importantly, with more understanding of why. 


 
 
 

Firstly, before I begin, Happy easter! It has been a great one for me; I am relieved that Lent has ended, and also just so joyous after Easter Sunday.

Now, on to what I was really going to unload about…

LJ and I have recently begun reading this book together, called ‘Marriage: A Path to Sanctity’, written by Javier Abad and Eugenio Fenoy.

I cannot begin to say what a joy this has become for both of us. We have only begun about 3 or 4 days ago, and we only read a few pages at a time, but I cannot describe already how this has changed us. When I say we read it together, we actually plonk ourselves down somewhere and take turns reading aloud. We were very privileged this past long weekend to have been able to do so; finding time to spend with each other is sometimes difficult enough during the week.

I cannot recommend this any more highly than to say: Read it! Both of us, only two chapters in, have felt so changed and closer by our reading experience together already.

Let me start by clarifying - it may be weird for many dating couples today to even approach the topic. Marriage is for the weak, or for the clingy and for people who need reassurance of commitment/a sign of commitment? I beg to differ. Marriage is for the very, very strong and determined. It is not easy. And to people who run away from the commitments and the self sacrifice that it demands - that is the easier option. There is no out in marriage - it is indissoluble, and it is very admirable that two people enter into it willingly and with full knowledge that once done, it cannot be undone.

Where do I start? Marriage is not easy. The book never minces its words and says it is all about pain and sacrifice. Don’t get me wrong - pain can be joyful (you say what?!) - this happens when sacrifice is done out of love. Then it redeems the self sacrifice into something beautiful. 

It also states from the very start that marriage is a religious vocation, not any easier or any lesser than any other religious vocation e.g. religious life etc. In fact, with the demands of communal life, and having children - it doesn’t make it a walk in the park.

To those who have disagreements about marriage, that’s fine. I myself saw my parents divorce. But as I said before, two chapters into the book, and I already see, so clearly, that marriage is so important in society and in the world. I see so clearly that it is very needed, and very called for, especially in today’s world.

I myself cannot believe I am writing these words. Trust me, it makes me feel like a fuddy duddy, but I assure you, I feel strangely confident about these thoughts.

What you make of your future family will shape your children, and you go on to form a very important building block of society. You are not just responsible for yourself and your spouse, but for the connections you make around you. It was a slap to my face that marriage and love are not just about my self fulfillment, but ALL about other people. ALL about them. 

The book goes on to explain a lot of other things that many other married people today may not  necessarily agree with, like contraception, co-habitation before marriage, and openness to children. Let me first say that these are very, very, contentious issues and I started out wondering and sharing the very same prefaces to the big debate arguments surrounding these:

- If we’re already going to get married, we can live together, it’s like ‘trying it out’, isn’t it? 

-It’s my body, I can choose whether to have an abortion or not if we get pregnant (Okay the issue of abortion is actually something I have strong opinions on - yes it’s your body, but when your right intervenes on the unborn’s right to live, your right stops there. You cannot remove the right to live from just the unborn without hurting the whole society’s right to live. A right to live is a right for everybody. And biology has never refuted that life begins at conception. It may not survive outside the womb, and it may look like a ball of cells, but neither would you have survived without your mother’s care and milk or looked like yourself even when you were two weeks old. In other words, a lack of biological maturity does not make it fair to kill a person. Now back to the issue of marriage.) 

- We are married (Christians) but we don’t want to have children yet, so we’ll wait a few years and use birth control in the meantime…


Trust me when I say I used to understand these and when thinking about these (or really, should I say, not thinking maturely and deeply enough about these issues yet) I thought I shared the same sentiment.

With the last question on contraception use in married couples, I think I will come back and divulge more after we have read a lot more…

I think I shall step away from the lectern now and just say I highly recommend it. Now I will probably wait to herald the judgement that I am some traditional, backward thinking person living in today’s society. A bit proudly and with more importantly, with more understanding of why

 

 

 

March282013
animals-animals-animals:

Mitya (by SoulcrackeD)


The job hunt continues…
Meanwhile, Lent is nearly over, which comes as a bit of a relief for me. 
I told L last night we are both a bit like diamonds in the rough, cutting and polishing at each other. It’s not always smooth-flowing, but it’s also necessary for us to become better people.

animals-animals-animals:

Mitya (by SoulcrackeD)

The job hunt continues…

Meanwhile, Lent is nearly over, which comes as a bit of a relief for me. 

I told L last night we are both a bit like diamonds in the rough, cutting and polishing at each other. It’s not always smooth-flowing, but it’s also necessary for us to become better people.

February282013
Vigan, in the North of Philippines

Vigan, in the North of Philippines

12PM
I may not write much here, but it often is a ground for me when I can’t be bothered to actually dredge up my real (hand-written) journal and get to it.
I’ve kept it because its nice to look back over the years, no matter how scarcely I’ve updated it, and reflect on how I change, together with the times.
This photo was taken in St. Augustine, in Intramuros, Manila, where LJ’s parents got married. We did attend mass there after visiting, and then spent the rest of the day at Fort Santiago.
It was a nice long vacation, filled with (mostly) family and friends. No sightseeing goals achieved, but I think that was the point of it. 
I’m back in the city now, and looking for a job. The clock’s ticking and its been about 3 months since graduation. Which isn’t too bad…yet. At all. We are trying to stay optimistic and I have to say, Lent is an excellent time for this trial to start, because it really has pulled at my faith and stretched it to new limits.
I basically sometimes do get the temptation to get anxious about unemployment. And who wouldn’t? Watching my savings leave me isn’t the best feeling in the world. To temper that, I have been trying to remind myself of ALL the many wonderful things that HAVE happened.
- I’ve achieved residency (which is really great news, it happened much faster than I thought it would)
- I remind myself of all the things I’ve previously worried about: learning how to drive by myself in this system, getting to husbandry pracs, finding precious friends/relationship
A job WILL come. It is only a matter of time. And when it does, it will be nice to look back and realise God once again pulled me through.
Happy Lenten season! I couldn’t be happier.

I may not write much here, but it often is a ground for me when I can’t be bothered to actually dredge up my real (hand-written) journal and get to it.

I’ve kept it because its nice to look back over the years, no matter how scarcely I’ve updated it, and reflect on how I change, together with the times.

This photo was taken in St. Augustine, in Intramuros, Manila, where LJ’s parents got married. We did attend mass there after visiting, and then spent the rest of the day at Fort Santiago.

It was a nice long vacation, filled with (mostly) family and friends. No sightseeing goals achieved, but I think that was the point of it. 

I’m back in the city now, and looking for a job. The clock’s ticking and its been about 3 months since graduation. Which isn’t too bad…yet. At all. We are trying to stay optimistic and I have to say, Lent is an excellent time for this trial to start, because it really has pulled at my faith and stretched it to new limits.

I basically sometimes do get the temptation to get anxious about unemployment. And who wouldn’t? Watching my savings leave me isn’t the best feeling in the world. To temper that, I have been trying to remind myself of ALL the many wonderful things that HAVE happened.

- I’ve achieved residency (which is really great news, it happened much faster than I thought it would)

- I remind myself of all the things I’ve previously worried about: learning how to drive by myself in this system, getting to husbandry pracs, finding precious friends/relationship

A job WILL come. It is only a matter of time. And when it does, it will be nice to look back and realise God once again pulled me through.

Happy Lenten season! I couldn’t be happier.

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